God Loves You (or why a story about famine, hunger, and loss needs to be told to children)
Tuesday, August 8, 2006 at 11:33PM NOTE: During the next five weeks, the pastor will follow the same texts selected as part of the 2005 VBS curriculum. The scripture text for today is the first chapter of Ruth.
When you wander the bookstore next, go over to the children’s books and check out what kids are reading nowadays. Undoubtedly, you’ll find a few familiar friends: Mother Goose is gathering together little nursery rhymes and stories, Nancy Drew still the teenage sleuth after decades, Dorothy Gale is still from Kansas but really happier in Oz. But you’ll also notice the newcomers: Harry Potter and his stories about defeating “You Know Who”, the irrepressible barn yard animals from “Click Clack Moo”, and then there’s depressive Lemony Snicket and his books chronicling “a series of unfortunate events.”
Have you hear of Lemony Snicket? He tells stories of three orphans, the Baudelaire children, whose parents died in a house fire, no suitable relatives to take them in, and the rather eccentric villain Count Olaf, who wants their money but doesn’t want them.
Snicket is the pen name of Daniel Handler, who started writing these books with the idea that children need stories that deal with the fact that the world is difficult, complex, and rather scary. He claims that if a child can grasp irony, that child begins to see how the world really works. In an 2005 interview, Handler comments
“I think that as you grow up you begin to look critically at the world and
you note the disparity between what people are saying and how it goes.
The way the books run is contrary to what everyone says all the time. In
many children's books good people are rewarded and bad people are
punished, and you see when you are very young that the world just
doesn't go that way. I think that's something akin to irony, though it's not
a textbook definition of irony. The idea that bad behavior is always
punished will begin to ring false if you're actually in a schoolyard.”
http://fictionwriting.about.com/od/interviews/a/lemony_3.htm
Hence, Handler’s writing as Lemony Snicket is sometimes edgy and less conventional than some children’s books out there. These orphans feel the brunt of feeling lost, alone, and without much help from anyone. The world is filled with heartache, and while we hope for children a much better life than our own, the reality is that kids need to know that things go awry.
Now at this point, you might be wondering why this has much to do with a sermon that is billed as “God loves you.” When we come to church, we hope to hear about faith and hope and love. Yet, when we spend time reading the opening of the book of Ruth, or most anything from the book of Job, or even the story of Christ’s journey toward the cross, there is a terrible encounter with pain and suffering and loss in the biblical narrative that is not incidental; it is a primary concern within the biblical stories.
We inadvertently reduce the Bible to “happy thoughts” if we do not wrestle with the edgier stuff well. We can read Noah’s Ark with visions of a happy little family on an ark full of happy little animals, if we conveniently overlook the serious note that Noah’s ark building adventure begins on: the world had grown so wicked, God decides to destroy everything and everyone, save this one righteous fellow named Noah. That’s a sobering little tale! Thus, we have to wrestle with stories like Ruth without making them so “happy” that we forget that they are written to help sad and frustrated folks find hope by letting them know that the life of faith is not removed far away from the frustrations and heartache of this world. In hearing these stories with all their twists and turns, we honor the biblical narratives’ radical assertion that God is not removed from this world and neither are we. There will be salvation, but there will also be brokenness with which to contend.
Lemony Snicket could have easily written the book of Ruth. It sounds like a series of unfortunate events, embroidered throughout with irony upon irony. The book of Ruth starts out with a famine in Bethlehem. Most of us would read this and think not much of the location, other than that it is usually sung about around Christmas. Actually, the irony is that a famine (a lack of food) strikes even the town called “House of Bread”.
Naomi and her husband Elimelech load up the truck and move to Moab, where it’s supposedly a better place to be. Yet, it isn’t, as Moab is considered a less desirable place, given some historical baggage between the Israelites and the Moabites. In other words, the only place that this family could go was “on the wrong side of the tracks” as they used to say.
During the time in Moab, her husband dies. Moreover, her two sons die, leaving her daughters-in-law Orpah and Ruth equally without much hope. Given the understandings of women in those days, if you did not have a husband, male heirs or another male relative who would marry you, a woman had very little left in the world.
Given that Ruth is a product of a long ago culture, perhaps we just take the names as “those unpronounceable words” in the text, but there’s significance in these names. Elimelich means “My God is King”, so it is a dreadful thing that a person like this dies in a foreign land. There’s great celebration in a name like Elimelich, and here he is being mentioned and then he dies. Then the two sons are Mahlon and Chillion, names that mean “sick” and “frail”. Moreover, what happens? They die, too.
This sounds so sad, doesn’t it? Yet, it gets even more complex. Naomi is the midst of all this loss, and her name means “Pleasant”. Oh, what irony! Moreover, it is not lost on Naomi, who declares herself embittered against her lot in life and against God. She winds up changing her name to Mara, which means “bitterness”.
Now, if Lemony Snicket were here, he would beg you to put away the book. See, how horrible it is--this story of three widow women off in a strange land and with no seeming way out? , Snicket pleads. Just put it down and don’t look back. You will thank me for it.
Thus, the book of Ruth opens with three women, widowed and alone, in the midst of a very grim time of famine. When you read these type of stories in the Bible, it is important to feel them as much as you spend time reading them. There’s hunger, lament, and great hardship. Indeed, a series of unfortunate events....
Yet, my friends, even as the Baudelaire orphans and the widows stuck in Moab seem to be painted into a corner or without any hope left, there are signs that things will turn around.
While the stories of great suffering in the Bible do not belittle the hardship endured by various biblical characters, the Bible also holds out hope that there will be rays of hope shining through. Most popular conceptions of faith talk about the goodness of God but don’t know what to do with suffering, hardship, and calamity. When the tsunami hit a couple of years ago, gifted theologian and current Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams wrote an op-ed piece for the London Telegraph, a prominent British newspaper. Archbishop Williams commented,
Faced with the paralyzing magnitude of a disaster like this, we naturally feel
more deeply outraged - and also more deeply helpless. We can’t see how this is
going to be dealt with, we can’t see how to make it better. We know, with a rather
sick feeling, that we shall have to go on facing it and we can’t make it go away or make ourselves feel good....
Later in this editorial, Williams observes,
The reaction of faith is or should be always one of passionate engagement with the lives that are left, a response that asks not for understanding but for ways of changing the situation in whatever – perhaps very small – ways that are open to us. The odd thing is that those who are most deeply involved – both as sufferers and as helpers – are so often the ones who spend least energy in raging over the lack of explanation. They are likely to shrug off, awkwardly and not very articulately, the great philosophical or religious questions we might want to press. Somehow, they are most aware of two things: a kind of strength and vision just to go on; and a sense of the imperative for practical service and love.
Somehow in all of this, God simply emerges for them as a faithful presence.
Arguments "for and against" have to be put in the context of that awkward, stubborn persistence.
http://www.archbishopofcanterbury.org/sermons_speeches/2005/050102.html
“Faithful presence” is indeed what changes the story of Naomi, so embittered she becomes “Bitter” by name as well as disposition. Naomi’s return to a better state of mind and lot in life is brought about by the least likely person: her daughter-in-law Ruth. Ruth is a Moabite, in other words, a complete outsider. In her rage and grief, Naomi tells Ruth and Orpah that they don’t have to endure this grief any longer. She releases them from having anything to do with her fate.
Yet, despite being told to turn back three times, Ruth persists in wanting to go with Naomi, who is bound for Bethlehem. Ruth is a foreigner whose status in life is in jeopardy because she is widowed without children. Ruth is given “an easy out” by Naomi, yet she wishes to go back with Naomi.
At this point, perhaps your general Bible knowledge kicks in, as we tend to tell the positive parts of the story first. Ruth and Naomi make it back to Bethlehem, set up a life again. Ruth meets Boaz, a man who fulfills the marital needs that restore Ruth to a societally acceptable status. It is a love story, and therefore, we love telling Ruth and Boaz’s courtship. Yet, it is profoundly more important than a Hollywood ending because you see the bigger story that shapes how an impossible situation (loss of family, food, and security) can find its way towards a more pleasant outcome. It takes Ruth, whose name is “compassionate friend”, to help Naomi have the courage to see that “Mara”, bitterness, was not to be her name for life.
Despite losing hope, which for Naomi begins with the death of Elimelich, whose name is “My God is King” in Hebrew, she changes back to “Pleasant” (her given name of Naomi) thanks to the faithfulness to God demonstrated by the complete outsider Moabite Ruth, truly a compassionate friend who endured hardship, loss, and yea, even the chance to get out of the predicament altogether. Indeed, we are graced with people like Ruth along the journey of faith, for whom, as the Archbishop commends, there is “a kind of strength and vision just to go on; and a sense of the imperative for practical service and love. Somehow in all of this, God simply emerges for them as a faithful presence.”
And for those of us who are tasked with raising children in the faith, either as parents or as members of this congregation called to tend the spiritual lives of the young, we tell them the wonderful story of Ruth and Naomi, the whole story, famine, bitterness, and impossible grief. We could feed them little platitudes, but if we are to raise them up in a world that is broken and unpredictable, the task of teaching the faith means telling them that life is impossible, but also, with every due reverence, that with God, the broken and unpredictable may be part of life, but it is not the last word. We must help our children learn that in their lives, they will be Naomi (pleasant), Mara (bitterness), and most hopefully, they will also be Ruth, a compassionate friend. And that is why the book is called Ruth.
The story doesn’t end on tears. It ends on great hope. The last verses of Ruth read:
So, Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. When they came together, the Lord
made her conceive, and she bore a son. Then the women said to Naomi, "Blessed
be the Lord, who has not left you this day without next-of-kin; and may his name
be renowned in Israel! He shall be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your
old age; for your daughter-in-law who loves you, who is more to you than seven
sons, has borne him." Then Naomi took the child and laid him in her bosom, and
became his nurse. The women of the neighborhood gave him a name, saying, "A
son has been born to Naomi." They named him Obed; he became the father of
Jesse, the father of David.
And as the book closes, Naomi, once called Bitterness, is holding that child tight.




